Say what you will: Gucci Mane can sure make a mean club cut. The man known for ice cream tattoos to the face, mental disease, and looking in terrible shape makes it happen with this song. Based on the old adage of “living lively off libations”, this surely gets the adrenaline going. And it is those reasons that this song works. It is made for partying, not thinking and giving worthwhile lessons on life.
Yet, there is a problem when you have those meant to party thinking about “having relationships” for the future.
So, there is this guy that keeps telling me that he really cares about me. He also thinks that we are perfect for each other. But he doesn’t want to date. The thing is that he is into a lot of partying. I don’t know if I should just move on and forget about him. He gets jealous when I spend time with anyone but he goes and spends time with anyone he wants.
We hung out this past weekend and he had called me his lady and stuff like that and I’m just not sure if he’s just trying to keep me close or if he’s just waiting for something better. We have dated in the past and we broke up because he didn’t want a girlfriend at that time. But even though he doesn’t want to be with me, he said that he wasn’t going to move on and that he always wanted me in his life.
Do you think that with him saying that he wanted me to stay in his life and that he really cared about me gives us a chance at being together?
Sure, there is a chance that you all will be together. There is also a chance that people will get killed by doing something stupid. So, there are chances for the possibilities of many things in life. However, just because there is a chance doesn’t mean it is worth one’s time.
I say let that man live his life and you should do the same.
He made it clear that he is working hard to “keep you under wraps” as if you are his “property” of sorts. Please don’t fall for that. It makes no sense to put yourself out there for hopes of “something greater later”. Where is the guarantee that you both will get together? At what point does he feel he wants to date? He is asking a lot of you and giving very little in return.
You know the old adage: have your cake and eat it too? This works perfectly in this situation.
The biggest thing about his state of affairs is this: he wants to party. So, let him party. Let him hit up the bar and hang with the buddies. Let him flirt with every chick and try to have random sex. Let him get wasted, pop bottles, and “turn up”. Let him have his fun.
Meanwhile, you should be doing the same thing. I’m not suggesting go party like you are James Belushi in Animal House. I am suggesting that you take the time to enjoy life. Go date if you are mentally capable of it. Do all the things that you know you enjoy.
After that is all said and done, I still wouldn’t try to get with him if I were you. Displaying such a controlling mentality isn’t healthy for any future relationship. He is already trying to tell you what to do and you all aren’t officially together. What happens when you both eventually link up? He starts telling you how to dress, where to sit, and how to think?
He is already showing you who he is; my suggestion is to believe him and be very cautious.
‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!