I always noted that people in bad moods should “get laid”. Usually, I said it out of pure jest. However, it wasn’t all for shits and giggles. Some people just needed to let go of their cares and worries. So, a suggestion of sexual satisfaction would always be the ace in the back pocket.
Wonder what he is doing? I give you a hint: he isn’t picking for lint.
No, not corner pocket. That’s for all of you pocket pool players. See what I just did there?
Anyways, my jest-infused suggestion led to an interesting situation. A social colleague noted his struggle with being abstinent. For spiritual reasons (which I respect), he wanted to take a break from sexual activity. My opinion was to “just give up and get some ass”. Some other people thought I should be more applauding to his gesture. Thus, not all agreed with my stance.
Hilariously enough, his act of celibacy didn’t last. I bet someone was happy as hell he broke from his decision.
I say all of this to reference an article that I reblogged. Antonio Daniels made it known that Catholic priests need to give up their vows of celibacy. With so many child molestation charges, something needed to be said. He pretty much picked the lesser of two evils: to end celibacy in the priesthood (marriage more than anything). To Daniels, it made no sense to keep doing something that causes so many complications.
You know what? I fully agree.
Hell, I will do you all one better: people (in general) need to reconsider their vows of abstinence/celibacy altogether.
The Aesthetic of Abstinence
Don’t get me wrong: there are some sizable reasons for celibacy to occur. Isadora Alman, M.F.T made mention of the fact that many have sex for the wrong reasons:
When that happens it is often because each in the couple was having sex for widely different reasons. If one, for example, wanted to feel loved, and the other was seeking relief from boredom, or each was hoping to feel dominant, the sex would have been disappointing. The lesson to be learned from this is that it is helpful to be aware of one’s hopes and expectations for each sexual event. [1]
And that rationality makes a lot of sense. Also, there is not a thing on anyone’s list of why to have sex that can’t be fulfilled in some other way [2]. So, celibacy can be good for those that have sex for the “wrong reasons”.
Mr. Mackey!!! Tell em how you feel!!!
Then we have what we call “asexuals”. Asexuals are those that hold the belief that “celibacy is a choice; asexuality is an orientation” [3]. There are actual people that don’t see the point to having sex because they don’t find it interesting. They would rather delve into “the world of science fiction and Transformers, where sex isn’t an issue at all” [4]. Thus, some people just don’t like to have sex.
Plus, there are plenty of STD’s out there. Who in the hell wants those?
For The Sexual Minded
However, there are some great reasons to HAVE sex.
I mean…really. LOL!
Even though many have heard this before, I will mention it again: sex is healthy. Sex brings upon benefits such as less stress, better blood pressure, and increases in immunity [5]. So, having sexual activity can help keep the body lean, keep the infections away, and keeps the blood flowing. Plus, University of Texas researchers found that boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex [6]. Basically, sex and good health tends to go hand in hand.
Plus, sex can make your “life better”. Colleen Crawford, contributor to HealthGuidance.org, noted that “many philosophers have observed that many of the greatest achievements and innovations could be attributed to men and women trying to impress the opposite sex” [7]. Sex can be a motivating factor in people’s lives. Also, sex is a way that couples feel closer to each other, and that they can join themselves emotionally [8]. So, sex does have the ability to help improve this thing called “life”.
What else should I have?
And don’t forget one of the main reasons to have sex: IT’S GREAT!!!
The Skinny
Personally, I don’t care for celibacy. I understand if you have sex for the wrong reasons. I understand if you want to avoid diseases or just don’t have an interest in it. However, sex is quite beneficial physically, mentally, and even socially. Plus, there is nothing more pleasurable than getting laid. I could “assume” that sex was necessary; but that would only make an “ass” out of “u” and “me”. Still, I would still “assume” so that “ass” could be shared from “u” to “me”.
‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!
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Antonio Maurice Daniels
March 11, 2013 at 9:54 am
Very good article, man! I’m all down for people wanting to remain celibate, especially for religious/spiritual reasons, but when it gets to the point of feeling the need to sexually abuse children or rape other adults, it’s time to give up those suppressed and repressed sexual desires and do what’s needed to have legal sexual intercourse.
darcwonn1906
March 11, 2013 at 9:47 pm
Agreed, sir!
Darius Fontaine
March 12, 2013 at 8:01 pm
Damn right it’s healthy…just the other day I told a buddy of mine, having sex on the regular is good for your prostate health.
Still, much respect to everyone who is responsible with their sexuality, but IMO a long-term vow of celibacy is both unnatural and unhealthy.
Great thoughts.